For those of you who have children, do you speak to them in Nepali or English? Even though I grew up here, my parents never spoke to me in English and I hate it when others speak to their kids in English. I know I am not going to speak to my kids in English.

I guess someone did promise to return Nepal, if not mistaken!

excuse typos in my last post.

and i agree with nepalikanchha. you may not need long time. 2 years may be more than enough.

the other thing that i would like to point out is, there is a big impact of the friend circle with which kids mingle. no matter how hard you try to teach them a language (any language for that matter), if they speak a certain language with their friends whom they mingle with, that one will be the most dominant and natural language for them and all others will remain overshadowed. its almost impossible for them to master 2 or more languages at the same time with utmost ease.

LooTe

and god knows what your kids wil be doing in Nepal or how theyre being raised and what type of people are around the kid!

loote, isnt 2 too early? the baby wont even know how to talk properly !

I will teach my daughter/ son how to do asskising , asskissers are doing much beter in the world than peoplewho work hard

i think loote promised to return nepal if i am not wrong...

AznshawtY, it sounds like you have no relatives in Nepal! When I speak of sending my kids there, I don't mean for them to settle down on their own. I still have my mom's brothers in Nepal. My kids can stay there for a year or two, learn the culture and the language, and then come back here.

thapap, hahaha...good one, i like that.

azzu, its not a matter of decades sweetie, 1.5-2 years ta ho ni....

flip_flop, haha..i am speaking for those who will stay....i should not use first person "I" :P.

LooTe

nepalikancha, i do have relatives there but i would DEFINITELY not wanna leave my kid overseas for years! be it with my own mom, grandmom, thulomom, blah blah! because how hes raised really affects when he gets old! not that i dont trust my own relatives but seriously, i dont understand how you guys can put up with leaving your OWN kid for years somewhere so far!



loote, you said youd send the kid when hes 2!!!!!?! and then get him back when he slike 14-15! that is a decade!

my dad did not give much of his time when i was little, so i do not like him as much as i like my mom!!

AznshawtY,
u did not get LOOTE's calculation kya...

when the kids are away he is having so much fun that for him a decade is like 2-4 yrs

hoina ta LOOTE... time flies when u r having fun (O:

well azzu you are right...

tesaile ta maile opinion khoji raa ni. i mean let's make it 3-4 years (when they are 3 years old to when they will be say 6-7 years )....and you can send your kids to your relatives (closed ones ) grandmoms will be the best.

LooTe

i agree with Anz, i don' want to send my kids away from me, every time is precious...that time won't come again and again...
keep on dreaming loote..good luck...

Well my dai and bhauju (non-nepali) decided to do the same thing, i.e, they sent their 4 year old kid to Nepal for he hardly spoke any nepali. all of us wanted him to spend the first most important years of his life in Nepal so that he may never forget where he comes from. but it didnt work out since our devil got seriously home-sick and they had to go fetch him in 2 months. so GOODLUCK!

would you be so busy that you wouldnt have the time to speak to your child in nepali? isnt that the reason you'd send your child to nepal? to learn nepali? yes, education is harder and better there till elemntary school but its not bad here either! its just a different way, both ways are going to end up as the same anyway.. i agree till gr 10, its as easy as a piece of cake, and after that it's a drastic change and sschool gets really hard here..but in nepal, its hard from the begining, and students are taught in a disrespectful way and have to memorize a lot! id still prefer north america for education than asia...

I cannot even begin to imagine sending my son away to Nepal. All your kid need is your undivided attention when you're home. As for Nepali speaking, although we talk to him in Nepali at home and he understands it perfectly, he does feel comfortable replying back in English, I don't care what language he speaks as long as he turns out to be a good human being.

I would talk with my kids in Nepali and teach them to read and write in nepali as well.

well,
i know sending kids away is not at all that easy. especially mothers will not agree with the idea at all. so i have a back up plan! :P. why not send both mother and kids back home in nepal for a couple of years. i know it would be difficult for father a lot. but...

well let's see. i mean i know its not worth to be ambitious sometimes. i want my kids to master both languages (eng and nep) as anything. he/she should be able to write a peom in nepali and a poetry in english :P. but yes, as sajhauser said, parents can work hard to teach their kids learn to read/speak and write nepali. but then that would just be for "kaamchalau" purpose.

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what do i know (sorry thapap, but this time i really don't know well (O:)

"why not send both mother and kids back home in nepal for a couple of years. i know it would be difficult for father a lot"

OMG, i can already imagine what kind of father and a husband are you going to be !!!

its not hard like hell to teach your kids nepali when you're pure nepali and you yourself grew up into nepali culture!! uffffff!

loks like loots wants his kid to be a lekhak, whatever you call for a nepali writer/poet! its okay with me as long as my child speaks and understands nepali! then i wudnt care if hes comfortable with english or nepali!

My thoughts on this:

Set up a nepali period in the evening and few hours during the weekends. During this time, teach the kids nepali, reading and writing. Once they start reading, get them books to read and a dictionary. Talk to them in nepali.

Many US college students have good spanish speaking skills after taking few years in highschool and college. So I think it is possible to teach them nepali.

As far as proficiency goes, I don't think they will be proficient as you are. Don't you think that after studying and working in US for several years you are able to put your point across if you spoke or wrote in English than in Nepali?

Many parents speak to the kids in English because it is easier for them and the kids. They don't have patience to make them understand what each nepali word means. So I think if you have will and patience, your kids will speak in nepali to some extent.

Start teaching your kids chinese, there's a good chance that China will experience outsourcing to the US pretty soon.