If theres any nepalease people who have grown up outside nepal?
I grew up in a European country and find that it can be hard, when your young to understand your heritage and specially your parents and the in between stuff
Find that u have to lie a lot coz they'll neva understand.
N they have an expectation for u to be truly nepali and be just like them, when your ideals and values reflect a toally different culture, or a mix between the two
Im in my 20's now and nothings really changed.
I just wonder now that theres soo many Nepalease abroad that their going to be faced with this problem with their kids and i don't think anyone really understands how it effects the 2nd generation of migrants.

Kinda agree with ya...im in a similair situation but not much u can do...its just the way it is...n its bin lyk that for yrs with other nationalities aswell..i kno heaps of ppls in this situation, lots of neps..n yeh def lots of lying goin on.. n theres always double standards for guys n girls..SUXX

sorry for ya huns!!

Let me share my life with you ppl.

I changed to 16 different schools in my life till today. Left Nepal in the middle of my teen age, and came to a country very different to what I was used to. I had to get used to those teenagers who had different, thinking, way of life, language and culture.
The language sounded like if they were speaking with a hot potatoes in their mouth. They never spoke English, coz they felt that they were very bad at English and were shy to use it. And I couldn’t understand other then English, Nepali and Hindi.
I just had to listen, and there were NO Nepalese out here to share how I felt and there still aren’t 
Only I know how I went through my teen age and stepped into my youth.

After few years where I still had difficulty with the language, had to choose a subject for my further education that would decide my fate of the future. And all the subjects were in their native language.
Now after so hard time I finished that education I started about and now have am lucky to get a job.


Let me tell you a funny incident here in the west, I went to Nepal and celebrated my “Bratabandha”. I was with my Ex- Gf here in the west, and she took my cloths off, and saw “Janai” and asked what that was? Then just told her that it was a “Secret thread” and that you wear after “Brathabanda” thing. I just sit and laugh when I think back.

It is not easy to be here alone in the west when you don’t have someone who can understand you, and someone who is at the same age and same background and language. I get jealous with some of you guys who are in US. At least there are so many Nepali out there you can hang around with and socialize with. Here have become as cold as the country itself and, as blank as the people themselves.
Feel so empty, and confused, feel like life is a bit(h.
Can feel something is missing. I do have western friends but I don’t feel close to them as I used to feel with those friends I have in Nepal.

I just hate my life.

Well, im in US with my parents, and i know where you are comming from, but im soo close to people in Nepal that i haven't changed at all. I mean I still call my friends and everything. I guess i've always had so many Nepalese people arround me, that i always feel like i am in Nepal. Its been 5 years since i left Nepal, and i really haven't changed. Where i live there is about 11 houses og NEpalese that the only place i really need to talk in English is at school. and I also only hang out with Nepali friends, so its like i have my own little Nepal here! :D

Guys I think it all depends on the individual.


nep_grl,
You should work on your english spelling. Try to use spell the words correctly. No offence but is that how you write if you grow up outside nepal?

Soo true man i came to US when i was 11 and obviously i have been more affected by american culture than Nepali. I am not saying i am more american or anything trust me i love my country, but the things going on there right now and the way our culture works is just really old fashioned for me. We live in the 21st century, but why is our culture in like the middle ages. Its been the same damn thing all these years, i see no changes at all. I mean the caste (dont really know how to spell it) system is still alive in nepal. I admit its not as bad as in India but damn talk about equal opportunites. How many of you ever see Sarki ( i think not really sure) being treated as well as Chetri or Bhauns?? When is this ever going to change in nepal?? And the freaking expectations oh man. In nepal there are two jobs people think is the most successful. One is a doctor and the other engineer. Guess what my parents want me to be, yes, a doctor. But thats not me i dont want to be a doctor. Once you live here half your life and see soo many opportunites it is pretty much impossible to agree with your parents. It would just be soo much easier if they would just understand and well until then lie, lie, and lie some more i guess.
Damn pretty long just wrote what i thought.
peace

Pupiffy- yes its called slang, but I will try and use proper English if it is harder to understand.

I would definitely agree with gurudev, it would be much harder immigrating to a non-English speaking country. I guess I’m kind of lucky in a sense that I have a lot of other Nepali friends here in the same boat as me and also other friends in similar situations. There are a lot of negatives but in a sense we get to have to the best of both worlds and maybe change some of the negative aspects of Nepali culture like the caste system.

With our parents I think their stuck in a certain time frame of Nepal and they can’t help that, they have been bought up with this and that’s what they see as right and wrong. This is not incorrect but in a sense neither is what their children want.

I’m sure when were all older and tell them the things we got up to, they will be quite shocked.