I find that I'm not good at being "flirty" with a girl who isn't clearly interested in me back or being flirty with me. For example, I have been talking to a girl right now. I've talked to her twice and she is very lovely and funny her laugh drives me crazy... but could'nt make any sort of move. On the other hand, I'm not sure if she likes me, and so when I go in for a move. I'll have to take a chance of course. At the time it'll be more obvious...But anyway, I digress. What little flirty things can I say to spice things up and see where she stands?

I find I'm pretty good at it with girl-friends because there's no REAL interest, so I'm 100% confident and I can make women laugh that way, since I can't lose (through not really wanting to go out with them). I need to somehow translate this for women I AM interested.

Hamro InDisguise ji khai bhanya?? heheh i miss him re k!!lol

Rythm sis......dont worry he is working now.....will pop uo sometime soon. Patience sis. LOL

Pratikchya ko phaal mittho huncha re bhane suneko thiee mahilee astinaaaaaaaa.....he h e he

Rythm :)

You implied, you won;
I agreed.
Simply put, in thy happiness;
I saw mine. :)

Two side of a coin.
After all,
Your victory & my defeat
Both refelction of each other.

Now,
"What" would you call the one who looses, to win heart?
Now that you've asked me, let me deliberate.....

Who would loose everything he has?
Who doesn?t do math of 'give and take'?
Where?d he not travel, for 'that someone'?
What?d he not do for her one warm hug?
Who'd smile at her ire and sacrifice one's peace.

Think my darling; 'they' are in drought;
One who'd loose all sans second thought.

After much ruminating ?? I conclude.

I'd call him the one in love and wants to be loved;
Who'd loose everything, to win the heart of his beloved.

As strong & beyond the boundary of our conversation, this 'love' might be;
Let me borrow a phrase and elaborate to thee.

THAT,
The ulitmate test of love is to argue, but still hold hands.
Can we not relate to this & unitedly stand?
(((( Between our victories and defeats)))))))
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And matrix babe ;), pardon meh madam, I feel for Euro. After all I have one tender heart full of compassion :p, But I shall try to pay heed to your suggestion.

Ani Ardent dude ko lagi bhaye pani......

Lu ja ta
In Jest,
IndisGuise:)

And matrix babe ;), pardon meh madam, I feel for Euro. After all I have one tender heart full of compassion :p, But I shall try to pay heed to your suggestion.
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Tender heart re?.....hehe now i feel for ya too. LOL. ;)

Dear InDisguise ji,
Who would loose everything he has?
Who doesn?t do math of 'give and take'?
Where?d he not travel, for 'that someone'?
What?d he not do for her one warm hug?
Who'd smile at her ire and sacrifice one's peace.
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The someone you talk about is all fantasy,
Who would do anything for a ' warm hug' in reality?
Maybe the dream is true for you,
But for me, I dont have a clue.
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You were happy with my victory,
Even though you had to admit defeat.
United we stand and united we will be,
Although at times you might argue with me.

"The ulitmate test of love is to argue, but still hold hands."
These words that you quoted, I totally understand,
So no matter who loses or wins amongst us,
"Together we are," i will always trust!!

LOL,

To Aati ti khandala??? @ Rythm?
Hehe...

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Fantasy you said...
Yup I agree;
"All" you wrote;
I'd argue. ( Note: I'm still holding you hand ;))

Is a warm hug from you - a guarantee?

Yes that dream for me was/ shall be true;
My lady, come unarmed, and surrender (to love) & then you'll have a clue.

Aba hera hai, ke garne....
I do not have a glue, to stick a paper and write down a clue. Hehe.

But i must admit your "we"s made me tickle, and thought of standing 'united' & together made me limp.
Was your limp-culosis a 'saruwa' roog? :P

And at last,
thanks for your vote of trust;
For every relation it is a must.

Abuu feri "khadala" ko pada ta feri ;) hehe

In jest,
IndisGuise:)

What the hell? OMG you guys make no sense!!


Honey do you think just because i was not here means i have given up ? I am watching you from every angle. Rythm sali banna tayar huwa. haha

Because of you
my world is now whole,
Because of you
love lives in my soul.
Because of you
I have laughter in my eyes,
Because of you
I am no longer afraid of good-byes.
You are my pillar
my stone of strength,
With me through all seasons
and great times of length.
My love for you is pure
boundless through space and time,
it grows stronger everyday
with the knowledge that you'll always be mine.
At the altar
I will joyously say I do,
for I have it all now
and it's all because of you.

keta keti haru malai pani flirt garna sikauna hami pani garum flirt kasto hune raicha :d

Unarmed and unprotected, I wanted to surrender,
But a hesitation made me shudder.
Is love a feeling or a fantasy?
I will never discover probably!!

You told me that I would have a clue,
If I surrendered to love and to you!!
But the very word makes me tremble.
Believe in it?.. I shall never!

As for the tickle you recieved from my 'we,'
You would have recieved it from any X-Y or Z (read it as zee ni feri)
The limpness, the tremble, the ecstacy,
Is nothing but the hormones going crazy!!

And now when all is said and done,
InDisguise ji you are still the one..
I trust and I hold hands with,
Even though I am so pessimistic!!

(LOL enjoy my poem.. hehe)

All right guys...here i m again...but i want to change the topic slightly...Specially from rhythm n rose...and other gals...but guys are welcome to put their comments...

Well the story of mine goes like this....I was more than happy with all what i have...kaam chalau programmer's job..i could earn enough for a normal life...and loving gf...she is in nepal studyin....after couple of months "sallah/sujav" and effort she finally agreed to come here to be with me and continue her studies...and i was soooo happy..infact we both were...

in the mean time, while c was preparing to come here...i got a life time oppertunity..i got a very good job..(60K+car+health cover). But for that i got to sign contract for at least two years and should work in some asian countries.

Accepting this job means..i m out again for 2 more years more over my gf has decided to leave everything and come here to start her studies again...This was the hardest decision i ever made in my life. I thought from heart...I love her very much and she has decided to leave so much for me to come here and if i go at this time..this is not fair for her....So i dropped the job offer..din't sign the contract, i thought i have ok job now n if c comes we would be together and if i have skill i could get another oppertunity definately.

I thought saying my gf that i have sacrifice my life time oppertunity just for her love..would be cheap..would be act of taking credit by myself...so i din't tell her anything about this.

But the hell...now c started sayin..c can't loose her time and career by comin here..c too has her own life and ambition...c can't start all her studies again just to come here...I WAS like " changa bata kaseko jasto"...n now c gets irritated whatever i say..

The girl who used to say thousand times that only I understand her most in this world..now started sayin i don't understand her at all....

I suffered a lot...How selfish people could be...but still i haven't told her that its not only C who is going to compromise with situation...I too have sacrificed my lifetime oppertunity just for her love and to be with her..I still don't want to say this to her..i think it would be like forcing her to come here coz i have sacrificed...

What i used to think...what a gal needs...LOVE LOVE , trust and faith n care from guy..I did all what i can to give these to her...

Now u guys n gals please suggest me what should i do...I m like shattered and feel.."jasko lagi yeti garay..usailay nai dissapoint garyo"...
TELL ME the solution guys....

I am sorry to hear such a sad incident of urs ..birkhey dai. I think in such a relationship, communication plays an important role. You should not hide anything. Should be open by heart. The moment you got such a wonderful job, you should have told her...coz. true love is seeing ur partner's happiness...and if she would have loved you (which i think don't by reading ur narration), she would have been definately happy for you. But now just think about the brighter aspect of ur life and remember " If you love someone, set him/ her free..if he/she comes back, he/she was yours...or else he/she was never yours". La ta Birkhey dai, cheer up .....and the following Sayari is dedicated to you dai...

Logo ne kaanton se zakham khaye hain,
Birkhey dai ne kaanton ko galey lagaya hain,
Log phoolon pey muskuratey hain,
Birkhey dai ne phoolon se zakham khaye hain!

Hare birkhey dai....why couldnt u communicate well with her. Hyaaaaa dont expect people to guess kya.....we are not Gods....may be she would have appreciated it if you had opened your mouth. Duhhhhhh.

You said.......What i used to think...what a gal needs...LOVE LOVE , trust and faith n care from guy..I did all what i can to give these to her...
-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Yes and you are right but most of all communication is important. I wish i could comment more on what u said.....and i know i still can....but i believe every story has two sides and since i dont know hers i dont want to say anything more then needed. I think its time for you not to have hard feelings and let it go. Dont forget everything happens for a reason and hope yours will be a good one. ;)

Birkhey dai... your story really is sad... And I agree with Ardent and Rose sis in some parts. I mean truth is very important in any type of relationship and so is communication.. I learned that the hard way!! I thought action was speaking what I was trying to tell him... but... I wish I had told him what I felt when there was time to make things right... but I did not.. I wanted him to know but I did not want to tell him..

Dun make the same mistake. Truth is very important.. You should have told her everythin in the first place. Girls feel special when u trust them enuff and involve them in ur decisions. I would respect a guy who tells me a bitter truth rather than a guy who keeps things from me...

And I know sometimes relationships change.. behavior changes and it hurts.. and I think that the girl thinks u are being too clingy..and as she doesnt know that u din take the offer she might even be thinking that u r askin too much from her. And it hurts to know that someone wud ask you to do something that u dun wanna do. Like she might be thinkin that u r askin so much outta her without thinking abt her studies.. and what did u do in return for her..?? does she KNOW anythin abt ur sacrifice..?? NO.. so she might think that u r being selfish.

DOnt let this mis communication and misunderstanding destroy what u have. SOmetimes at times like this the gal might have a different interpretation of what u r tryin to say..so it might be that u are tryin to tel her something and she understands somethin else... has happened to me too.. tara i din have the time to set things rights.. time to tell him that i meant something else... and the of course there was my ego too!!

SO what u shud do now.. is tell her everything... sit down with her.. make her understand and explain.and dun bring ego in between thats a BIG no-no!!.. and if she really does love you... there is no doubt that she will understand and all will be sorted out!! all the best!!:)

PS: show her u care and love her.. show her u think abt her rather than thinkin only abt u selfish needs. Dun make her feel like u r forcing her because of YOUR OWN EMOTIONS.. give her the optionas and let her choose. Her decision will tell you her feelings.

birkhey dai ma ta..nothing to say..yet im here ;oP

anyways just wanted to say...good luck to u..and good luck to her..:o)..
and hope everything turns out fine for both of u :o)..what will happen ko le ke tha..tara good luck hai :o)...

good day..

danny

In the end ask her if she loves you or not.....if yes you guys will make up....if not hmm...ke bhanni bhanni....yo relationships le ni tauko dhukhaucha. ;)

Danny dai...Rhythm ko story pani kya sad rahecha ne ta ... "... but I did not.. I wanted him to know but I did not want to tell him.. " ....he he kasto explanation ho yo ...tapai le bhujno bhayo?? mahilee ta bhujina ..... anee arko sentence of rythm "I would respect a guy who tells me a bitter truth rather than a guy who keeps things from me... " ....lau Danny dai ...yo rhythm ko bitter truth patta lagaunu paryo...tapai lai taha chha bhane bhani dinu hola....he he he .....anee Danny dai ...ajja hamro garden ma Rose nai chaina ne ...kasaile tipe chha ki kya ho!!!

I am right here and above you too lol.

Lau Danny dai...yeta aunush ta ...yaha po rahecha ta ROSE ta....Lau dany dai ...malai ta auta sayari yaad ayo :

"kuch kuch hota hai
when i think about U
dil to pagal hai
what can i do "

La Danny dai bhannus ta tyo mero sayari ko "U" ko paryo???

Birkhey mula! Dhet!

To start with, it's a problem of communication gap! It is rather common in us Nepalis that we are not good communicators in relationships, be it between bf-gf, parents-children, siblings, friends, etc. We tend to ASSUME that the other person understands our feelings and knows our wants, and find ourselves utterly dumbfounded when things do not go as we would have liked it, sometimes letting bitterness overwhelm our minds too.

You should have let her know of your job offer and, more than that, should have been OPEN to her about your intentions, dilemmas, and problems right from the very beginning. Well, she should have reciprocated too, but that's besides the point here. If both of you could have been more open to eachother and comunicated better, regardless of how bitter some facts may have been, it would have been much easier for both of you to swallow the bitter pill when it was time.

Nevertheless, what has happened has happened, and, as I said above, since poor communications in US Nepalis (and many oher Asians, may I add) is very common, and since you already are finding her changing, ther is no point in fretting about your failures, although you might want to be more assertive in the future in terms of communicating your thoughts in the future.

Now, however, comes the problem of resolving the conflict.

Once again,

1. talk to her openly
2. do not assume, even when it seems obvious
3. let her know of EVERYTHING that's in your mind
4. urge her to be more open too, so that you will also know what is in her mind
5. refrain from being bitter when disagreemetns arise
finally,
6. if things work out, great! If not, move on, yaar! You will not be the only person in this whole wide world who would have been in similar undesirable situations. Trust me, many, many of us, if not all, have been through times like these at one time or another. This will not mean the end of the world for you, for it hasn't meant so for every other person who has been through it.

You two may not end up together, but both of you would have found another love in no time if you are willing to overcome the misfortune, which YOU MUST!

Most of all, birkhey dai, remember NOT to be bitter towards her for her desire not to come to the US to be with you. First of all, she did not, and does not know of your safcrificing the new job offer; secondly, even if she did, she has the inalienable right to fend for herself. It [her decision] might have seemed rather selfish to you, but let's be honest: In the end, it all comes down to what you, or her, or anyone else want for him/her self -- we all only live happily as long as we live for ourselves.

I know some sacrifices and compromises are helpful in relationships, but when these virtues of relationships cannot be realized, UNDERSTANDING is the virtue that should/must over ride anything else. UNDERSTANDING and RESPECTING eachother's desires, ways and wants are the ONLY path to peaceful and happy living, both internally in your mind, and externally in your dealings with others.