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 Arrange marriage issue

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Posted on 02-16-17 2:15 PM     Reply [Subscribe]
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I had arrange marriage due to family pressure 5 years ago. Now at this point of my life, I am not sure if i love my wife. She is a nice person and I've been nothing but supportive of her throughout and have been supporting her through her education but in these 5 years i never had feelings of that euphoria. We don't have other issues. I am just so torned that i would go on and live my life without love. I don't know what i should do.
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Posted on 02-18-17 1:36 PM     [Snapshot: 1902]     Reply [Subscribe]
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Misleading title: the core problem here is not the way u were married but your inability to work things out with your spouse.
- Any kind of relationship is a bit of work. Forget about your spouse, you probably dont get along with your parents all the time and thats okay. Thats part of it but you dont ignore or dump your parents, do you? For that matter, it could be anybody.
- No body can make you love or hate a person. Before you jump to any conclusions, jot down the points that makes you feel your marriage is not working for you. You said your wife is not the problem so it might be you. If your the problem, getting away from her wont solve anything. Even if you guys separate, whats next for you? Do you see any silver lining or dark clouds ahead of you?

 
Posted on 02-18-17 3:02 PM     [Snapshot: 1958]     Reply [Subscribe]
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OP what is it that you seek in your life or your relationship with your spouse?
Let me tell you a true story, alright here it goes;
I used to live with a very kind person, a little over a decade ago. He owned a house had a US citizenship through marriage which fell apart (south asian btw). He helped me in my college days like a brother, didnt take a dime from me for rent other than me buying groceries and doing house chores. His parents found him a nice girl and had arrange marriage. As he processed for her to come to USA with proper papers, he used to talk about the whole awkward situation he would be in when she arrives. He was so down on the whole situation that one day he even suggested i take care of her and be her man if she permits. I couldnt believe what i had just heard. Mind you, this is not some ill-will wishing kind of a guy. To this day i havent met as generous or kind person in my life leaving my parents, ofcourse. So, she arrives and he makes me pick her up from the airport and the whole situation with them while i was there with them for 3 months was super awkward. I moved to different state and used to talk to him and he just didnt have any love for her as he was some kind of robot.

After a year they had a baby and the whole relationship changed. Now they got three kids happily living life to the fullest. To each his/her own, Marriage to me is settling down and time for kids. Maybe this will change how you view life or relationships in general terms. Be content with what you have, dont go looking around somebody elses pocket.
 
Posted on 02-19-17 1:56 PM     [Snapshot: 2390]     Reply [Subscribe]
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मेरो बिचारमा म-नेपाली ले अर्को नाम बात खाता खोले जस्तो छ अनि अरुका कमेन्ट मेटाउदै छौ ? Do not control thread deleting others. I am guessing you may be attracted to a male. Go to the doctor and get an evaluation.
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