साझाबासी हो !!!

Why are people like this?


I have a friend from nepal and he is a decent guy (as I know him and his family) . During his bachelor he had affection for one girl in his class(which was natural of course for boys), when he completed his study he knew that the girl also had some felling for him ibut she never expressed it nor did my fren. He always was afraid of the if he expressed his feeling to the girl the girl might be hurt as she seems to be a stright forward girl.(this as what he told me). 

 After he did his bachelors got a decent job in nepal  But like all of us he had his craze for comming to US . He appied to  university and got his I20 and all the stuff when he was just about ready to apply for F1 he was selected for DV and got his 1st letter. As he already had a decent job in Nepal, he and his family thought that they might as well wait for DV and leave the student visa. In the mean time his girlfriend went to US in F1 and was studying there.

As some us might know how frustating the process of DV is (and his case number was very much at the last) he was not even sure if he would get the 2nd letter or not. In the mean time he used to talk with here online and stuff like that and one day his girlfriend expressed her feeling and he was very happy for hearing that. Things went well.

After sometime he go his 2nd letter, got his visa and went to US (but in the different state then his girlfriend). They would still talk in skype and MSN but had never meet each other in person in US. 


One day she asked him to login to her email and see for some info as she was not able to login into the internet. This was the day when he found out that she had an affair with someelse during their studies, it was more than the affair, they were lending out money and sharing other stuff too. He just read some of their emails and found out that

The time when the girl expressed her feeling concided with the time the other guy was getting married to some other girl. And even after the guy got married his girlfriend was writing him email and personal stuff, feeling towards him etc.(till this he never felt any problem)

Then he read one mail from man (he googled and later knew that the man was immigration lawyer) and knew that his girlfriend was thinking of secertly marrying the man and live in US and this too was sent recently .

Now my friend is dreppesed not coz his girl had other man in his life(which he thinks is natural) but coz the girls lied to him when he asked if she had any one in her life besides him and she still had intensions to marry that man. 

Now he knows all this but he had not told this girl any thing about this.
 
So साझाबासी I need help !!
Can you tell what he need to do now?

Suggest something like

सर्प पनि मरोस् लठ्ठी पनि नभाँचियोस् 

I was lost somewhere towards the end of the story. My suggestion would be your friend should leave that girl and let her chose her partner. No worries man..there are 1000's of girl in the US and if you are a DV, not a problem like students.
Take care!!!

So,,your friends name is namitra thapa.....lol

 @Grenade Do you think that he need to say all this stuff to this girls(like the finding about the girls and the man).

My advice is harder said than done, but I think is the best choice: Forget her and move on. Life is too precious to dwell over past memories.

थापाजी
जिन्दगी एक छिन् को खेल हैन ,तेसैले अब नयाँ अध्याएे सुरु गर्नु राम्रो हुन्छ |
लब र् सेन्तिमेन्ट सबै भुलेर यथार्थ धरातल मा जिउने |

Yes, just tell the girl why you can't marry her or why you you want to go away from her life. That would be good..

सर्प पनि मरोस् लठ्ठी पनि नभाँचियोस्
Kill the snake with a gun.

Better come clean about this. Tell her what he saw and that he shouldn't be taken for a fool. Sometimes honesty is best policy.

 first the story is told from third person who is his fren and he is too much concerned about him. (or may be himself). second the story is weird. why would she let her passport if she had such mails.????????????????

I somehow get something fishy in the story. Either this girl doesn't give a shit about this guy or she is crazy to lend her password that would unleashed her secrets. My suggestion is dump this b**** and move on.

I aint making fun of yu nigga...coz i dnt have to..your story itself is funny....
Yu acting like yu knw every single stuffs of somebody's( your friend) life. I need to say man either yu r nosy as a b**ch or you r narrating your own story. If not don't yu worry abt else's s*** myan.
Ok!!!lemme assume everuthing yu saying is true. Then your friend need to leave that dumba** b***h. Aint nobody gonna give there password with such stuffs...

OR... It may sound lil harsh..may be she was trying to dump him..but she couldn't tell directly..nd made a drama out of it
Whateva it is chill out nigga there are more women in the world than men.

Good narration, Thapaji,
but who are 'he' and 'she'

First of all, she gave her password to your friend shows her level of dumbness. She doesnot deserve your friend lol

Secondly, the guys was not supposed to go after her private mails. Coz  tyati pahiely dekhi ko crush rahechaso, but still past ignore garna sakena.

girls ko kaami chiana, if he can move on , forget abt that girl . But if he still wants to settle down with her if the details are reasonable, then it would be better to contact THAT GUY ( her ex) . What was the reason for their break up ? Worst reason would be she left that guy coz your friend won DV which he will never get to hear from her side.   If there were other things, then it depends on your fren and her.  How deep was their relationships, Is the girl mentally prepare to forget that guy ( overcome her feelings over that guy) etc.  

About the second guy, it could be just contract marriage as it was supposed to be secret marriage. Your friends need detail info on that.

The best he can do is :
Apologise with the girl for reading her emails. 
Then he is ready to ask whatever he wants to ask
What was the relationship with the first guy( married guy) .
How long did the relationship lasted
How deep is the realtionship ( could be online only , could be best friend or .....)
Why that guy married othe girl ( if posible ask this question to that guy too if he cooperates)
Would it be possible for her to forget about that guy , particulary the relationships with that guy?

Who is second guy,
Is he a boyfren too?
What happen to the plan of getting married with that guy?

and othe things your friend thinks he should know.


Take a time and let your friend decide after he knows all of these clearly.
If your friend wants to be with her, dont go for court marriage only. Make sure everyone especially her families and friends know about the marriage.
I dont know if it is possible. If it is , dont file for her residency here until you guyz have kids together. and let her know abou this before marriage coz I have read couple of times in sajha that the marriage lasted until the girl recieved GC.




If he wants to leave her, they are in different states. So he can just ignore her phone calls, emails, texts and go with different girl or he can write one email to her  and stop whatever is going on any time.

 

well, this story seems somewhat fishy

why did the girl gave the password if she has such emails and conversations? is she trying to get rid of the guy ( showing her secrets because boys trust level is very thin)? 

And how stupid is that boy who is judging her with those emails and convesation without talking to her? 

Oh yes, he is sharing wiith his friends and his friend is making it public; very nice

C'mon, the main thing is "is she faithful or not?" and your friend can have a good conversation with her, ask her about emails and truth will be there on the spot

Like this, you will know what is girl trying to do and boy can decide easily 

There is nothing wrong to inquire a lawyer for possible ways of obtaining a greencard from a potential spouse. I would be happy to know that she is getting serious. Your moron friend is a lucky bastaard and he don't realize.dv and the girl he wants more he wants . Slap tahat bitttch

थापा जि अनि अरु साथीहरु

may be thapaji's friend need to give the girls girls one last chance to clearify the thing?? May be she was so shocked by the marriage of her BF that she was looking for some one and found thapaji's friend ???what do you say???

 OK guys

The result is out. The girl broke up with my friend. She told him that he was not good enough for her. My friend tried several times that he would make her happy for rest of the life and try his best to be ne perfect for her. She still want to have a break up.

Just for the records Are all girls like that??? I am also a girls and I never though so. 

Now my friend is really depressed . He cries when he is alone and says to me that he did all is best to make her happy. I told him " IT IS NOT THAT YOU ARE NOT PERFECT FOR HER BUT SHE IS NOT GOOD ENOUGH FOR HER"

so all sajha basi out there I request you all to give him suggestion and advice ( He is regular is sajha and he would definately look at all of your comment and suggestions).

Don't be a twat.. Grow up... There are lots of girls out there...

 hyaa...feri arko samasya ketiko kaaranle garda. 
baalai ho ni, kaali gaye gori aauchhe! 
tyasto 17 tira mann bhulaudai hidne ketiko pachhi lagera hudaina,
ramro-naramro hudai garchha lifema, hares khanu bhayena!
baru belaima tirmo saathilai sabai thaha bhayechha, ramro bhayo.
aba tyo ketilai samjhera rune hoina, euta ghaado panchhiyo bhanne sochera aaramsanga agadi badhne ni!

 How abt NamitraThapa + That Guy.. R u in Love with that Guy??.. and UHHHH he has a DV too..