I found thsi interesting article in Indian website.

By Dina Rabadi

Do not date us for the “experience” of being with a “white woman.”

Too many South Asian men come to America with misconceptions about “white women.” The stereotype seems to be that “white women” have no morals, are only interested in men with money, don’t want to be married, and have no religious or family values.
Some South Asian men seem to think that because they are not at home, they can live by a different set of rules. “White women” do not have to be taken seriously. We can be used for sex, comfort and maybe even love. But when it is time to go home, or when the relationship becomes too emotionally charged, they brutally end the relationship or quickly marry someone of their nationality and religion. The “white woman” is left devastated.
I know, because I was one of them.
I was in a relationship with a Pakistani Muslim for four years while both of us were undergraduates at an Ivy League school. He was my first boyfriend, he referred to me as his girlfriend and told me that he loved me many, many times, but always added that he couldn’t marry me. His mother was expecting him to marry a Pakistani Muslim and if he didn’t, he would break her heart.
As an American Christian woman of an interracial background, I could not understand. We were compatible at every level, except for my ethnic and religious background. To me, his arguments and his family’s expectations seemed racist. My parents had taught me to look beyond race and to love someone for his character, spirit and integrity. Even if they didn’t necessarily approve of my life partner, my parents would still want me to marry the person I loved. If I were happy, they would be happy for me, and accept my partner into the family.
After going back and forth about the relationship, we broke up. He got engaged to a Muslim woman from Pakistan two months after our break up. He wrote to me about the engagement and added, “Perhaps you’ll say to yourself that I am more in love with — than I was with you. It’s not true. I can’t lie to myself.”
I was devastated.
Four years with this person whom I loved so much and knew loved me — only to have him offer up his life commitment to someone else whom he hardly knew, in such a short time. But then I realized that he did not have the character, spirit and integrity my parents had told me to look for. Otherwise he would have known that I am a woman before I am white, with feelings, hopes and dreams of my own. I’m “white” because I was born that way. I didn’t choose my race as much as he didn’t any more than he chose his nationality, family or religion. He did not enjoy being discriminated against for who he was and what he believed in; he should not have done the same to me.
As I related my story to other women, I learned that my situation was not that unusual. A 26 year-old Canadian woman working on her Ph.D. at the University of Chicago, dated a Hindu Indian investment banker for five years before he told her that their chance of getting married was nil. His parents, he finally told her, are expecting him to marry an Indian and he did not want to disappoint them. He still loves her, he added, but he could not let his family down. She too is now devastated.
This has to stop.
If you are a South Asian man considering coming to my country, or are already here, you need to realize that us “white women” are to be treated with the same respect that you give your mothers, daughters, sisters or wives. The difference in values and upbringing between the women of India and the United States does not make one better than the other.
And if you are afraid of falling in love with a “white woman,” know that your religion does allow the marriage. Your culture and your family, however, may disapprove. But that is something that you need to resolve for yourself. Don’t drag the “white woman” through your emotional turmoil while you figure it out. That is the ethically responsible thing to do.
So when you get off the plane, and see us on the street, at a party, in class, or at work, and think we are alluring, do not approach us unless you are willing to discover our values, our interests, our personality, regardless of race or religion. Do not approach us unless you are willing to commit to us if we fall in love. If you cannot commit, then leave us alone and go back home to get married. Do not hurt us by loving us then not having the courage to deal with the consequences of that love. Do not date us for the “experience” of being with a “white woman.” We are not an exhibit, carnival ride or trip to the city.

HATS OFF !!!
i know, i'm fallin in lopp with a WHITE WOMAN now !!

ahaha, i want white woman now...me too me too..but if i love her..hell i dont even want to think about marriage! lol

as peter griffin said "women are objects made by god to entertain us."

jk!:P

बल्ल मेरो आँखा खुल्यो । सोह्रै आना साँचो हो ! लौरा जी लाई धन्यवाद

i have dated many kinds of women... nepalese, vietnamese, mongolian, east european, white american, south american (catholic christian, other christian, hindu and buddhist). i think among all, it's the white catholic women who are more honest and faithful than any other. At least they don't lie.

Laura,
Thanks for this bringing this in.

"Do not date us for the “experience” of being with a “white woman.” We are not an exhibit, carnival ride or trip to the city. " - very well put together truth. Kudos to Ms. Rabadi and her assertiveness.

Somebody mentioned above "women are objects made by god to entertain men"- what a dilemma! Where are we heading? Lets rethink.

This is America. Land of free. F_ck those mother tuckers who leave their lovers for family. They should be hanged or deport from USA. No body should play with hearts like that. I got no mo' words but I am mad. That's what I know. F_ck those cunning bastads.

This is America. Land of free. F_ck those mother tuckers who leave their lovers for family. They should be hanged or deport from USA. No body should play with hearts like that. I got no mo' words but I am mad. That's what I know. Some kinda same shit happened to my girl friend with her ex too. F_ck those cunning bastads.

What she could expect from a muslim?? She should have been happy that he didn't fly a plane onto her house. Didn't she know about 'War on Terror'? Nonsense!
At least a Nepali would marry her had she loved one. I do not have any mercy for her as she played a brat.

ok.. ok.. no stereotyping and prejudicising... i have met many great muslim friends and have met many terrible hindus and christians and buddhists..

Very touching indeed. I feel sorry for Dina Rabadi and all other white women who have been through all this. Wish men could do better than this...

phatte said "Some kinda same shit happened to my girl friend with her ex too. F_ck those cunning bastads."

dude, why are you so mad? if that shit hadn't happened you wouldnt have hooked up with your girliefriend.

It is not joke and it is NOT education, civilization, moral, responsibility, love and respect.

It is corrupt, crook and criminal mentality and behavior of south Asian Men.

They go to aboard western country and do this act because they think it is OK. They do not watch or policing by parents, friends, relatives, society. They think that is life time fun, modernize and western life style.

Some south Asian men have baby from girl in oversea than they just abandon baby and western girlfriend. I have seen that so many cases just in front of my eyes.

Some south Asian men just do love and marriage just for Employment Authorization Card so called “Green Card” and Citizenship. They abandon western girl wife when they got Green Card from western government for being husband of western girl.

As I am woman I extremely oppose these kinds of mentality, behavior and act of south Asian men.

It is the way of filthy looser stupid evil act.

She took original story article above from this site:
http://www.chowk.com/show_article.cgi?aid=00001868&channel=gulberg

hey that's not a nice thing to say..

Title: The Courage to Love
By Dina Rabadi

Do not date us for the “experience” of being with a “white woman.”


Original Article Link:

http://littleindia.com/march2003/The%20Courage%20to%20Love.htm

well, it's gone the other way too, i'm sure. "white" women going after innocent, foreign, exotic, gullible south asian men for the experience. after they've had enough, the "white" women simply dump their former boyfriends. ki kasso?

Zalim is right. Lots of white girls played with my heart when i was in college, but you see me nowhere posting crying messages. They cheated on me, they took my money, they robbed me emotionally, financially and mentally.
Most white girls don't even look at the dark skin guys from Indian, Nepal,paki.... dating is very far away thing. See those guys could have married these white girls , make green card in 2 -3 years and dump them, but they didn't dothat.... people break up for different reasons all the time. Why blame the whole south asians for what few guys did with thier personal issues. Stupid woman.
reading this thread gives me idea llike white girls are sati sabitri.. while it's the other way around,, you guys have noticed if you have slept with a woman here in the usa that the next day they act like they've never seen you before.. like they met on a bus and are seperating after some time.. they don't even have emotions ... or they are so flacky that they can not be considered for lost lasting relationships.
they must have been after those guys for better life any way.. they must know that they have good majors in colleges and must have been after them for better future.. while they study some crappy major like anthropology or history seeking entry level position at McDonalds drive way after graduation.

Zalim Singh, yes i am happy that my girl friend is with me but she suffered a lot. She had a lot of pain. I love her so I care about her. Her life would be much better if she had not made relationship with that guy. Sujanks, f_ck you dude to call muslim good friends and calling hindus, chirstians and buddhist are worst. You are a piece of shit.

This hapens even in Nepal.
one newar guy dated one of my friends who was from Mongolian origin just to have fun. she was so much in love with him and really cared for him all the time. But then he was two timing her with another newar girl his parents chose for him and finally broke wtih my friends saying that he cannot marry another caste.

Can you imagine and he did all this knowing beforehand that he will not marry my friend and will just have fun. He just assumed that because my friend belonged to certain caste, she just wanted to have fun or was not the marrying type.

Like the values our family teaches us, Unfortunately in Nepal, India man are taught by their own family to use others emotion and show their manhood and it is fine. Some families do not mind their sons dating or even sleeping around with other girls as long as he will marry their choice of girl in the end.

We say that our culture and values are good!!! Yes, it all goes down to the respect for women.

So you guys who boast how many women you sleep around with in US remember that if you hurt a girl, you will have to pay for it someday!!!!!!!!

Although it works both ways, it's kind of sad.

Afu ta jo sanga lob paryo uii sanga bihe garne ho. Notwithstanding - cast fast sast and other stuffs beyond her/mine control. Kasam la! ;)

IndisGuise:)

P.S: Maile koi gori lai ma chu bhanera bhanya hoina ni feri :p
Oh! in english hai ta - Not that i am trying to attract any foreign, i mean - "white female."

;)