IF you had an ultra-smart, rich, good-at-heart guy as your b/f that u used to love, but that so called 'love' is fading and you don't feel for him as much. Everything is still perfect, and you'd envy if that guy was in someone else's arms, but things are too normal..you dont know what you really want at this point. what would you do?

TUM SE OH HASINA MEIN NE MOHABAAT NA KARNE THEE
MAGAR MERE DIL NE DOKHA DE DIYA
SAAM SABERE DIL GHABARAYE
RAAT HAMARE SAAPNE ME CHUP KE ROJ KOHI AAYE JAAYE

TOBA MERE TOBA YEH KAYAMAT NA KARNE THE
MAGAR YEH DIL NE DHOKA KARNE THEE

dc girl dun mind me hehe..im a bit jhyaap btw and well u know time passin for a while hehe...u asked for a girl opinion..but let me tell u a neutral opinion...well i think im try to be neutral..tho im a guy hehe...if im being neutral or not?u all judgle ..like we always do..anyways here is me opinion however u wanna judge ;o) hehe

u said if one had an ultra-smart ..rich...good at heart guy as a bf...u USED? to love..but its fadin and u dun feel much for him...

hmm its stil perfect eh?when u USED to love?(contradiction there?) ..and it s fadin?...and envy when he is with someone else?(just a human nature if u ask me :o) hehe)..and yap u find it normal...

wat would i do?i dunno wat i wanna do at this point but i tell u smthing!!if u thot that he
was an ultra-smart..rich..good at heart guy and its perfect ....well...stop freakn contradicting urself!!!i mean yes thats just human thing to do!!!..if u thot that he was that great..and just so perfect..sheeesh!!!well we are all dumb i guess..we just wanna lose smthing good and then 'realise' wats good...and later learn from our mistake..(we do learn from our mistake dun we?)....if u ask me..i wish i had a choice of having just a normal life!!where i knew i wat was gonna happen the next day!!how borin it might be!!!ccos one thing i dun really like about meself..which i think is a 'human' nature is subconciously...'screw' ourself and give us more 'challenges' cos we do believe we can do it in the most adverse circumstances...tho in the end..hah wat happns..time wil tell and yap most of us do regret dun we?...oh well thats ironies i gues...

anyways good luck in ur life...everyone has fight their own 'inner' war...a battle with oneself...and as u said...u used to love..pls dear...it just means U just aint that into him ;o)..so pls do save urself ur trouble ..and save him the trouble ;o)....we make our own decisions and have to live with it..so good luck to u..and if he was that into u(im assuming the person who is askn is u hehe..if he aint u..dun mind me ;o) hehe)...well..just do hope u do end up with someone that is more into u ;o)...grass is always greener on the other side..but do u wanna still think and look for the other side..or try to be happy with wat u have?...that only u can answer..and can do...and good luck :oD....gotta fight our own inner war with ourself ke ;o)..how much others wanna help..they do pretty much cant help eh?hehe..doubts we do all have...good luck with urs ;o)....it might seem im wishin too much good luck hehe..but irony is that i think im actually thinkin im wishin too little hehe...

its not wat others would do..its wat u would do!!wat u would wanna do!!(make a decision ..and well ..gotta live with our won decisions..irony is that smtimes the longer time we take time to make a decision..the chance is gone in makin a decision...and smtimes...we do too much in a haste..the balance we are lookin for..will we ever find it?hehe..no idea!!hehe...so good luck again ;o) hehe)..

dyam san bro wat did u do!!u tried to make this place 'better' but now sheesh!!if u open with firefox...the whole bloody place is in a mesh i tell u!!!and no!!i choose to use to firefox!!!(tho ironically using IE to reply here hehe..well someones one has to get over their 'thinkness' dun they?)

good luck again DC girl :o)....esp if it is perfect...:o)..but does perfection ever exist?well for me i like to beg to differ ;o)...and others will differ with wat i think so hehe..good luck again ;o)...the choice is urs ...and tomorrow brings..only time will tell..que sera sera :oD...

Carpe diem!!and good luck!!hehe

a bit jhyaap..hehe dun mind me ;o) hehe

good day :oD

either break up or do something to keep that romance going........

MM le geet gayera hairan..jhan senti geet gaidera jhan confused..lol. anynymous, ammai, jyap bhayera katro laamo email lekheko ni...screw ourselves intentionally.. human nature..cause we like to take challenges..makes sense, doesnt make sense..inner war outer war warai war jata here pani..ma pani jhyap..bihan huna laagecha sutna gayi ma ta..haha anonymous is drunk!!

I love Bob Marley :D

Don't confuse yourself by thinking such things. Things might suck now, but it will be better ahead. It always goes up and down. If you hit bottom, it just means you'll have an opportunity to rise so much higher. So, TALK to him about it and try new things out to add the spice in your love life....looks like you guys take each other as granted and thats why things are looking so normal...dont let that happen....spice it up and things will be wonderful...:)

Good Luck

DC Girl - sorry to be butting in rather rudely as I happen to belong to the opposite lot, not your 'weaker sex' ones! Ahem.. :)

Only one word for you if I may:

Carpe Diem.. (I almost said, Carpe bloody Diem:) :)

But my wiry handsome Adjutant, Captain Danny Rex aka Anonymous, from the grand gripping Sandhurst-Puccini opera, would prob'ly say:

"Dun stop blasting your keyboard there!""

Yeah do that, will you? The 'release' effect is massive - doubtless you'll know what you really want in at the end of your 'blasting the keyboard'. Yeah, a pint of bitter ale.. that's what you'll want! Grrrr.... (Note: I have just replaced my keyboard - too much blasting away!)

No jokes aside, okay my only advice - a serious one this time:

Stick to your side of the pond, for you won't know what it's like on the other side of it. It might as well be murky and deep for all the reasons in the world and you'd find it hard to come out of it, once 'in' there. Well, that's if you wanted to. So, wait but most impotantly, be patient. Time is a greater healer as they say.. My 'two cents'!

Right, have I just read one of those trashy manuals? With one of those relationship gurus woffling on about how one in a great relationship must act and all the rest of it but when the guru knows that he is the one to be given counselling, having lived through divorces and his never-ending rounds of 'bonking' (excuse my French) around with women he can lay his hands on. What a sad old git!
(Note: I AM NOT ONE OF HIS TYPES.. so, let's make that crystal clear! )

To laughter and life.
Carpe diem

DC_Girl
Break up with that loser.....................and find a new guy be happy

You know what Girls(I am a girl myself Thankyou very much) are so fu*king Drama Queens. It's like I almost understand what's happening and can't stop the emotions....................It sucks.....


Move on find a nice guy, I am sure there are tons out there. Start right here at sajha....

DC Boys.... what are you waiting for?

Dude I totally misunderstood this thread...I thought that you b/f was cheating on you or something>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>haha what a Loser (ME)

There is a stage in every relationship where there is an up and a down. Relationships are like waves.... sometimes going up and sometimes down, and it depends on your ability to handle the downs that keep relationship alive. WHy do u think there is more closeness and familiarity in long relationships? Because they have gone through the ups and downs and are still together so they know that it was meant to be. Your relationship depends on how you react when u have doubts. If you let go... the relationship will not be there anymore. If you hold strong and tell yourself that this is just the bad phase then sooner or later the good phase will be back and everything will be good. As long as u still t hink that your guy is cute and all that I think you should not let go! BUT if u think that the relatinship stinks and that he isnt a nice guy and all that crap.. then well... YOU know better!!

I think either you are just plain dumb or bored... Go figure!

DC_Girl,
Your situtation sounds a lot similar to mine...... i say just give it some time and see where it takes both of you. you don't have to break up with him or anything like that.
And one thing, Love never fades away...if u are talking about the kinda love that is eternal than no question the love is still there and will always be there. The love you have for him is just changing, like life. :)

Twisted............
memories....feelings.......dreams......
the sky outside......
the pain inside??.
lights??forms..?.stars
past n future
twisted is my life
twisted am I

HI DC-GAL,
It's quite hard to forget him. Get far away from him, stop communicating, don't listen senti songs, don't watch romantic movies, watch sports and comedy movies, go for work and out, go ahead and make ur future. Just see your future. You gotta make ur own future. Khutta bhaye jutta kati kati.

Piza and coke. with Sandhurst Lahure's Carpe Diem. Life is easy. YET, sticking to One side of the pond cause i don't know the other, i tell you, is a billion dollar loser idea. yea yea i know what you're thinking..'then go drown yourself in the puddle bia@ch' lol. forgive meh English too :D

had to smash a couple communication 'tools' to get the 'release' effect..nevertheless, the 'weaker' sex has the tolerance to patch the holes..the stronger doesn't :D

ahem! i'm scratchin me arse..gee what did i write up there?? up up there? about him? i love him. i love him not. hmm..no blaming on cheap wine this time. and Danny its not that keee..i don't love trouble ke..it just comes my way :S darn these adwares!! yea Danny some things in life are perfect. just perfect! so lovely. admit it..the first snow flakes on the ground, eating icecream in scorching heat, sitting by the fireplace sipping coffee on a wintry night. isnt that perfection? luxury may be. lol. whatever it is, HE is something..Lahure's stronger sex :D someone taller than me, definitely!

GI I agree. Happens to me all the time:

Sometimes, you will love him a lot, sometimes you won't have any love whatsoever, sometimes you will love him a little..

I agree twice:

I guess throughout, you gotta survive cuz it's not always going to be an icecream.

But sometimes we can't resist an urge for bad things in life. Right? Like smoking, drinking..its an urge. So its enticing to give up than keep. For no reason too. But thanx for your words, and thanx Rythm n everyone else. Gazzab, beautiful poem :)

Rythm.... so reading dem stories where they tell you that the moral of the story""There is a stage in every relationship where there is an up and a down." so live with it". Stop generalizing the whole population.

hey DC girl...(and no im not jhyaap right now hehe)..well dunno if those few lines were for me..dunno why ppl call me danny here :o|..saw 'danny' in wat u wrote there..so here i am re kya hehe..

plus got nothn better to do right now ke hehe..(actually do have smthings to do..but leavin it for later..u know save the best for last?;oP hehe..or more like committin one of the seven deadly sins :o| ..Sloth!!!:o|..or maybe im doin more :o| ke tha :o|..oh well i 'pay' for them later..hope i still have some 'credit' ..so yap PUT IT ON ME TAB!!re kya ;oP hehe..now its on me tab..so let me carry on typing ;oP hehe)

anyways let me get staight to 'replyn' tho i might not really be able to do that :oS hehe..im tryn!:@ sheesh!hehe

Ma pani koi koi bela sochu(i dun think too much OK!:@ just clarifyn in case some ppl here thot i do think too much ;oP hehe)..do i love troubles?? :o|..cos well yap always end up in some shit here and there..but i gues in the end..me partly is to blame for me own shit..tho of cos smtimes its not really ones fault :oS..but yap trouble ta kailey chadna..seems to love me(us) :oD..oh well at least smthing else does love us other than our parents and will never leave us re kya ;oP hehe...

u scratchn ur arse re?phori!public ma?chya chya ;oP hehe..(well nepali culture def will say chya chya hoina?..mero mum will do that if she saw me do that ;oP hehe..not just "chya chya".. ajjai ke ke bhanthio hola and kucho pani haat ma :o| dyam nice sight hoina?;oP hehe)but i gues in the end...if it itches u scratch it and of cos if u can do it urself ..do it ni hoina ;o)..who cares whos watchn re kya ;oP...

U too got affected by the adwares?sacchi ek din!!i wish i got so bored(more than now ;oP hehe) and pissed off(more than i ever been hehe) with the adwares!!! u know a crazy person tries hard ;oP...and if one does try hard enuf ..one can get some level of success hehe oh well i like to believe that anyways ;o)....

watever they try to send us!!i wanna send 10times back!:@ salla haru!!sacchi ho!!kaam pauna ki kayho!:@ bloody adwares/virus/spams!..sheesh!cant believe one can make money outta of those things :o| if they got it back..dyam can just see the expressions in their faces ;o)...its so nice ;oD..but in the end...we didnt take enuf precautions or listened did we?:oS..think i learnt from those 'mistakes' hehe..cos dyam just thot of it :o| never been to a porn site on the net for ages..how bored i am :o| wahahahah duh!;oP hehe

oops where was i?;oP hehe

as u said..yap luxury ;o)...i like to believe perfection doesnt exist :oD..well it might one day..got hope ni ;o) hehe..but just cos i believe it doesnt exist..doesnt mean dun strive for it hoina?..(yap me am really contradicting meself here hehe..i mean why try for smthing i dun believe in hoina?maybe deep inside i do hope and believe it does exist hola?ke tha?hehe if we understood ourselves we def would be really understanding others :oD but as the way it is..do we understand another person?to a level the person wanna be understood?well mero opinion is no :oD...if u disagree good :oD..dun wanna anyone to 'copy' me opinion!:@ ;oP hehe)but in the end...as u said def a lot of luxuries around ;o)..well depends wat u call luxury hehe..to each their own :oD...

and as u said.."whatever it is, HE is something" ;o)...so u wanna do smthing about it?hehe..cos in the end...well HE is there now!..in the future who knows if he will still be there?present is wat we have hoina?:oD..future is all speculation :oD....

but dun we like to speculated?;oP hehe...so alikiti doubts soubts haru ta aucha..ke alikiti..tanna ho :o|..i guess in the end(how many ends ho :o| and yet these 'ends' never 'meet'!!:o| hehe)..whole life bhari we wont stop havin doubts :oD..oh well at least we got another thing for life ;oP...

and in the end(pheri end re?:o| hehe)..if one tries their best..and nothng works out ..then one can really say nothn was there hoina?;oP hehe cos tried it as hard as one could acos duh!!if nothing is there..wont be together hoina?but then again this world is too contradicting aint it?..ke ke huncha ke ke ;oP hehe...

if not him there will be another him ;o) oh well if no him..just means..well no him ni duh!maybe one needed a her..instead of a him?logical aint i?duh!;oP hehe...

la la dherai bhak bhak garey :o| (dun wanna type more lame thots hehe)...in the end good luck hai :oD...cos we do make our own choices..we have our own thots/opinions..hope all goes well with u :oD..in the end..im sure u be alright ;o)..u better be!:@ re kya ;oP hehe...and dyam he is taller re!!:o| now wat else do u want?;oP thats already one good point ;oP hehe...isnt that enuf?lobi!;oP hehe..

and oh yah u talkn about the 1st snow flakes made me remember the time(last yr ho) i saw snow :o| (i do think so i did see/feel snow when i was younger..tara not too sure about it..could be me imaginations playn trick on me :o|..too many thots ke :o| that smtimes dun even know if those nice nice thots did happen or did i imagine them :o| hehe)..well wasnt really plannin to see snow...planned a campin trip so was suprised(and totally unprepared :o| hehe) to see snow on the hill..but yap it did feel good ;o)...maybe at that time it just felt 'perfect' ;oP hehe...come to think of it..think have a foto of snow..will see if i can share it ;oP hehe..frens ta chakka paaring when i got a bit over excited and went to take photo of me touchn/feeln the snow hehe..actually i was shocked at meself doin those things :o| ;oP hehe...

dyam i can just feel it someone is gonna comment on the length :o| dyam u!:@ ;oP hehe

and oh yah..watever it is..dun stop blasting the keyboard of urs ;o)...kinda feels good in some way to type hoina?;oP hehe...plus makes some ppl feel good in a screwed way to know there are more 'confused' ppl out there..and who knows confused forever?:o| hehe..

seriously today i thot i wont be here..either in another place or on the train at this time...but of cos smthing told me then too..i might be here typing :o| so ppl!!dun mind me!!i really wasnt plannin on typing!:@ arghhhhhh!:@ aphi bhoyo re kya ;oP hehe..dyam how did i manage to type :o| ..shud i post or shud i not?in a moment everything will be revealed re kya ;oP....time always has the 'answers' :o| some answers ;oP hehe

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Commander Sandhurst bro!!pugyo!!dun mention that name!!!!!!:o| hehe...
hope the weeknd was good :oD...

good day :oD

DC_girl,

I don't know if it will be helpful to you and, in fact, I even don't know if it is a valid theory, however, I think a romantic relationship is a SUM of what happens in the following FOUR tracks and therefore all of these four tracks need to be examined in order to understand what's going on.

The four tracks:

1. A's original "love" to B
2. B's original "love" to A
3. A's reciprocal "love" to B
4. B's reciprocal "love" to A
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why do girls need to think so much..I'd do what my heart felt like...East or West I don't care