थोरै भाग्येमानी हुन्छन जसको पहिलो प्रयास मै छोरा हुन्छ , तिनीहरु लाई दोस्रो प्रयास गरे नि भो नगरे नि भो । नत्र प्राय धेरैको पहिलो सन्तान छोरि नै हुन्छन । बाहिरी रुपमा हेर्दा जसको पहिलो सन्तान छोरि हुन्छन तिनीहरु पनि केहि हद सम्म खुसि नै देखिन्छन किनकि छोरि लाई लछमीको रुपमा हेर्ने गरिन्छ हिन्दु समाजमा ।

कसैलाई पुत्री लाभ भयो भने , " ल लछमी को आगमन भयो" भनेर बधाई दिने प्रचलन छ। बाहिरी रुपमा जे जस्तो भए पनि पहिलो सन्तान छोरि हुने हरुलाई भित्र भित्रै अलि अलि मानसिक दबाब पर्न थाल्छ । समाजले " ल पहिलो सन्तान छोरि भयो , अब एउटा छोरो पाउनु पर्छ" भनेर अघोसित दबाब दिन थाल्छ। तर आजकल कसैको पहिलो प्रयास मै "गोल्डेन शट " अर्थात् छोरा भयो भने " ल अब छोरि पाउनु पर्छ" भनेर भन्दैन । अर्को सन्तान को कुरै हुदैन । फल्स्वोरूप दम्पदी लाई कुनै मानसिक दबाब हुदैन । आफ्नो हैसियेद र इछ्याले दोस्रो सन्तान पाए नि भयो नपाए नि भयो । फेरी छोरो भए double खुस छोरि भए नि ठिकै , किनकि पहिलो सन्तान छोरो भएकोले तपाई समाजमा सम्मानजनक स्थानमा रहनु हुन्छ ।

तर एकछिन परिकल्पना गर्नुस त जसको पहिलो सन्तान छोरि छ अनि उनीहरु दोस्रो सन्तान जन्माउने प्रक्रियामा छन् । उनीहरु लाई कति मानसिक दवाब हुन्छ होला ? गर्बधरण भएको पहलो हप्ता देखि सामाजिक , पारिबारिक, संस्कृतिक दबाब आउन थाल्छ , लिङ्ग पहिचान नभए सम्म ।
जसको दोस्रो पटकको प्रयासमा छोरा हुन्छ उसको त नदि पार भै गयो तर दोस्रो पटक पनि छिरी हुनेहरुलाई मानसिक बिचलन ज्यादै आउने गरेको छ । न निल्नु न ओकल्नु । सासु ससुरा , नन्द जेठानी को करकर, ताना, बचन ओह्हो , भोग्ने लाई कस्तो गारो होला । समाज ले एस्तो यातना दिन्छकि आफु बसेको ठाउँ छोडेर कहिँ कसैले नचिन्ने बिरानो ठाउँमा गएर बसौ जस्तो ।

तपाइको २ छोरि भएको बेला अब खबर आउछ तपाई नजिक कोइ नन्द, देउरानी , साथी पनि गर्भवती छिन अनि उनको सन्तानको लिङ्ग पहिचान भै सक्यो अनि पहिलो प्रयास मै छोरा रैछ । तेतिबेला तापको मनमा आउने भावना एकछिन परिकल्पना गर्नुस ।

येस्तै छ नेपाली समाज । भारतीयको त कुरै नगरम

अष्ट्रीयामा तिन छोरिकि आमाले दुखद घटना घटाएको खबर आको छ ।

https://nagariknews.nagariknetwork.com/social-affairs/364701-1603005605.html?fbclid=IwAR3nLCz2J5J8F_d1Gvp9cOktmkqHo_JFYAbffM7qwRW5gp8NkcQUB74eJsg

"ति महिलाले दुई छोरी र एक छोराको हत्या चक्कु प्रहार गरेर हत्या गरे पछि आत्महत्याको प्रयास गरेकी थिइन्। "

These news sources say three daughters were killed.
https://myrepublica.nagariknetwork.com/news/a-nepali-mom-in-austria-kills-three-daughters-including-an-eight-month-old-baby-before-trying-to-kill-self/

https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/12953510/three-girls-dead-vienna-woman-arrested/


uff! distressing news. Kina marnu paryo ni harey. Naniharu lai kati garo bhayo hola.

यो त संकुचित मानसिकता हुँदाको पिडा हुन पर्नी जस्तो लाग्यो

एक छोरि = बरदान
२ छोरि = बर्बादी

k bhannu vako seusi ji, afaile afailai gali dine, tapai chori manche hoina.

Soumya , bitter but truth

Yes, it is both bitter and truth. I hope you do not normalize it in your daily conversations. Even just an act of accepting it as bitter truth, it feedbacks the reinforcement of the truth. In this the case the bitter one: dui chori barbaadi and it brings repercussions.

Does this guy has some mental problem? Or this guy had never been to school?? Such an uneducated idiot. He doesn't know his mother, wife, sister all are females and how daughters are looking after their parents more than sons. All sons leave their old parents and many are living abroad

Divine girl bitchi seems 2 hv multiple failure attempts 2 hv a baby boy. Try hard looser

First change your profile picture of a lady in Haku Patasi . Such a disrespect to Newari community and Newari girls. and change your name from Sari to something manly if you hate daughters so much kiddo

Seems ur too frustrated with your multiple bad lucks .yup, life is not equally fair to everyone . Stay positive n keep trying, one day u might have ur ultimate happiness of life ,ie a son

I am not frustrated at all but you are frustrated with your life and wife that's why you are posting such things as you hate daughters. So sad you life has not been fair to you. You better stay positive and be accepting towards daughters I hope God never gives you a daughter if you think ultimate happiness is a son coz you do not deserve a blessing of a daughter or any ladies in your life.

I know Iu frustrated koz u cudnot give a baby boy to ur family, I cannot do much about it but if you need my sperm I'm ready ,its fertile n boy bearing , I can assure

If your speam is so talented in having a son why are you posting about not having a son and just having daughters you pervert

I help unfortunate women like you , put one spoon of my sperm inside , son guaranteed

You can put the sperm in your unfortunate mum's mouth you hate daughters right you must hate her too and c needs it more coz so sad c gave birth to a jerk like you

I was thinking that Nas ji is extremely ethnocentrist (second last post). Thank you for your last post. To add more, angels are often disguised as sons too if sons are not programmed with highly toxic patriarchal codes in their mind :)

Nasji, you can replace a girl in this video and see how you will look at it again. This child is just being assertive, a bit on the aggressive side. That's it. Any child can be assertive, aggressive and naughty.
Concerning western feminism: does it matter the location of any 'ism' as long as it does encapsulate the true core human values (values that make us an evolved and better human beings)? Ok it also depends how you define feminism. I am curious to know how you observe western feminism :)

Let them na Nasji, what you have got to lose? Even if these feminist women are trying to act like men then it does not mean that you will become less of a man. I think you do not need to verbally abuse them.