अरु साथी को कस्तो छ खै मेरो त सम्बन्ध नै धराप मा पार्यो, १० वर्ष लगेर एउटा बिसाए पढियो, न त्यो बिसाए मा काम पाइयो, यता छिरेको २ ३ बर्स भयो, कैले कता कैले कता, राम्रो skill नि छैन, यो उमेर (३० +) मा धेर्रै advance course नि गर्न सकिन, बिबाह भाको नि २ ३ वर्ष भयो, बिबाह भए देखि खासै संगै नि बस्न पाको छैन, उ पूर्व म पश्चिम, weekend मा गएर भेट्न नि नसकिने दुरी मा छौ, भेट हुन लाई कम्ति मा १० दिन को छुट्टि चाहिन्छ र गर्तिलो पैसा नि,
म खासै राम्रो छैन, उनि मलाई चौपट्टै राम्रो लाग्छ, २५ बर्स सम्म कसैले फुटेको आखा ले हेरेनन, love गर्ने कति कोसिस गरियो, सधै फेल, उनि मलाई मेरो जिन्दगी को सबै भन्दा ठुलो बरदान जस्तो लाग्छ, भन्नु पर्दा उसैलाई खुसि बनौन र सानो सुखी परिवार को निर्माण गर्न दिल ज्यान दिएर लागेको छु, तर यो long distance relationship ले धोका देला जस्तो लाग्छ, उनि working lady हुन् उनको ओरि परि सधै राम्रा राम्रा को ताती लाग्छ, face book को message हेर्छु दुनिया ले दुनिया थरि लेखि पाठाका हुन्छन ... मैले बाहिर बाट हेर्दा उनि म प्रति फुल comitted नै भाको देख्छु..केहि साथी हरु ले अलि अलि गाई गुइ कुरा सुनौछन मन मा चिसो पश्चा..ग्रीन कार्ड को चक्कर मा धेरै पैसा खर्च भयो.. नेपाली ले गर्ने सबै काम गरियो..कमाको आदा जसो पैसा ग्रीन कार्ड को चक्कर मा खर्च भाको छ, GC बने पछि यो काम छोडेर सानो तिनो व्यापार गरु भनेको त्यो नि सम्भब नहोला जस्तो छ,,, उता घर नागको दसक भन्दा बादी भै सक्यो.. १८ १९ वर्ष मा यहाँ छिरेको ऐले तेस्को दोब्बर उमेर हुने बेला भै सक्यो.

मेरो सम्बन्ध बिग्रियो भने तेस्को धेरै जिम्बेवारी मेरै हो जस्तो मलाई लाग्छ, बिबाह गरेको १००० दिन मा मुस्किल ले मा १०० दिन उनि संग बसे होला, ऐले को उमेर ५ वर्ष पछि फेरी फर्किन्न, चादी बटुल्ने चक्कर मा आफु संग भएको हीरा फालेको अनुभब हुन थालेको छ मलाई, येदि भोलि उनको सम्बन्ध अरु कोइ संग भएछ भने नि त्यो बातावरण निर्माण गरेको मैले नै हो जस्तो लग्न थालेको छ आजो मलाई , केहि पाउन केहि गुमाउनु पर्छ तर थोरै पाउन धेरै गुमाएको अनुभव भै र छ मलाई..

ऐले सम्म केहि भाको छैन तर केहि नहुने सुनिस्चिता पनि छैन , काम छाडौ पैसा हुन्न, status गुम्ने खतरा छ , tps धराप मै छ, नछाडौ सम्बन्द धराप मा छ.

कति साथी भाई को येस्तै समस्या होला कसै को gf नेपाल मा होला या कुनै कारण ले अरु state मा होलान, तपाई हरु ले long distance relationship कसोरी maintain गर्नु हुञ्छ??

Kale dai,
I went through the exact same situation. The thing that i find most plausible about Nepalese is that they never believe they can get the job themselves (they feel the only way to find job in IT is through consultancy). After working as a consultant for about 3 years and being never together with my then-gf and now wife. we stayed in 2 different states for about 6 years. My wife was in H1b visa and working in hospital. I felt it will be worth it to stay with my wife and work as a customer service Rep with $15 pay than be an IT consultant and living away from her. i finally decided quit IT job that paid me more $35 per hr (i have bachelor in MIS and MBA degree) and became uber driver and work as customer service in insurance company for $15. Meanwhile i was also applying IT job as well by myself in the same area where my wife lived. I got a job that pays about $30/hour in few months . I bought a house about a year and half ago and live with my wife.

Kale dai,
Im exactly in similar situation. IT ma lageko 1 and half year jati bhayo..1st project jaso taso support ko bharma 3 months base ani 6 month gap pachi arko project ma aako chu yaha aako ni 3 month jati bhayo( support ko bharma basirako chu).
I don’t know merai kamjori ho ki k ho..may be im not working hard enough or mero brain capacity thorai bhayeko le ho..
I don’t think I can be a good software developer.

Finished my bachelors in 7 years but kaam chai $15-$16 dollar bhanda mathiko payena tesaile IT tira lageko..

IT le garda kattam bho life.15/16 hajar $$ debt ani bank ko Sabaii paisa finish bhaii sakyo.Project gap le garda life naii barbad bho, baru subway/gas station kaam garnu ramro.

Sathi haru ko katha sunda amilo bho..ali kati positivity ko lagi lekhdai xu..ma ni IT mai ho..14 barsa agadi US ako, duita engineering degree liye, ek barsa padekai bisaya mani engineering kai kaam ni gare..tara kagaz company le sponsor garna anakani garyo..uta afno sathi bhane kaam napayera, consultrancy ko training liyera ghanta ko $45 khana thali sakya thiyo..maile ni tespaxi, IT tira gaye..aja kaam garna thalya saat barsa bho..ramrai xa..2-3 barsa bho, achel duita kaam garxu IT mai..$65/hr auxa..Last year, $255K thiyo mero income, tyo bhanda agadi ko year ni lagvag teti nai bho..yo year chai $300K katxa..mero ni auta girlfriend thiyo..usko sabai kharcha chai maile tiri diye college ko..tara..last ma xodera gaidi :) ..But anyways, IT is a good field jasto lagxa malai ta..Kaam ko kahilyai kami bhayena, ahile ni xaina, voli ni hunna..din ma 1-2 wota ta call nai auxa position ko lagi, email haru ta kurai nagarum..duita kaam vanda badi ta ma ekjana le garna sakdina..natra ta kaam chai tannai xa..IT field chai ramro xa..natra ta ma ni uhi gas station, ki ta ocean city tira janu partho hola..

The root cause is that few freaking dhotis Nepalese diging gold with fake shi* consultancy , and we all went la la with them , which destroyed work culture in IT industry and now it started to take tool on peoples life. It’s same as foreign labor industry screwing nepali society as a whole.

It MA k garchau ? Mero desh

Mero desh le jasti gaff dine keta haru ko sune ra IT tira entry gareko kattam bho.

Mero desh ... what you doing in IT... asto guff laai garda kata haru khatam bho... LOL

mero_desh:
You salary without Tax, medicare, social security
Rate x hours per week x weeks per year
= 65 x 40 x 52 = $135,200 per year

With Tax = $ 135,200 - 15 % (approx)
= $114,920 ( Still you don't have health insurance)

Sorry to hear that you are having difficult time. Like everyone else suggested, it is easy to tell you to live together with your wife. But it cannot happen in a snap. Looks like people like you and yor wife are making four times higher ($60 or more) at Desi's IT job compared to another $15 option. Once your income increases, it is very difficult to go back to previous income level. And impossible to survive when your income becomes four times lower (15 vs 60).

I am not IT person and make way too little. A QA I know makes $68, another system engineer makes $75 and several others around me make about the same or probably even more. Few of their spouses are in different cities, but they all look much happier with great expensive European cars, impressive vacations, lavish lifestyle with regular visits to casinos and upscale bars as well as excellent investment portfolios. Some even talk about millions. Most are living with their spouses, but those who are not also seem to be doing fine with frequent visits. Sorry, I cannot feel the intensity of your pain, but if you can handle it and your wife is also on the same page, it might just be a step towards your happy future.Best wishes!

Qa makes 65 bucks and hour? From a dhoti consultancy?

I have not seen QA make more than 42$ an hour.

ridiculous $ amt, probably from sfc or somewhere where the cost of living is high is fack

Mero deah kun tech ma ho yesto ?

Its possible folks. I started my career in 2014 after my MS. Have been making $85/hr since 1 year. Just got interviewed for $95/hr today and I think it went pretty well. Its all about dedication for 2-3 years and the right technology you choose.
Have been working as Sr Java/Cloud Engineer and I am not in SFO areas.
Sharing this info to folks who loosing hope. When I started my career through consultancy, It was Sr position as you know how consultancy works. Used to work 15+ hrs/day though I am from CS background and had 3+ experience years from Nepal. These days, recruiters contact me seeing my profile in LinkedIn.
Dont think much and just dedicate some more time to your work, have patience. But, If you do not have any interest then go with what you would prefer to do. But, I can understand you visa status concern.

Sajha Keto,
Compared to yours, I am much behind. I do have 16 years of experience in software development.
I work with full benefits (medical for family, vacations, holidays, life insurance etc) and good immediate vested 401K matching. My current salary is $150K.
Still I am behind you. Your progress is very good.

@Micky brother
I know if I join FT I would get benefits but not range could go down . I have so many friends who have been working at around ~110-120K. Dedication, patience, and luck are the 3 things which drove me up to this. Started my career in OPT then H1B and then GC within 3+ years. Getting right employer is the key factor. But, I already left them when I got my GC.
Also, if you have multiple offers on hands then it will make you so comfortable to bargain the rate/salary.
Sharing my story so that people who losing hope. Just keep in mind that "Every cloud has a silver lining"

mero ni testai ha sathi...ma yeta bug patta lagauna besta bhaye..uta arko bug aayera mero jeevan nai lathalinga paryo.. ghar ko na ghat ko...aile na paisa cha na famili cha. ma ta depresson ma gai sake yar..thinking or returning nepal soon

IT is ever changing industry...If you have 15 years of experience and you don't upgrade your skills you're like an old car...which will take you from A to B but with some issues...unreliable etc...But if you're an IT professional who keeps upgrading your skills...then you're a fine tuned vehicle with turbo engine perhaps...may get well paid over the years for what you do...Unless you beat your competition year after year (fellow employees), you are a big liability to your company you work for.....and also a baloon about to explode (in your own mind)....coz you need that pay check for mortgage and all that stuff...you better try as hard as you can and stay at your work and hope for retirement someday with all the benefits that you believe you'll get.

I may be little off but this is somewhat IT industry seemed to me few years ago...now my dream is to go open a small grocery store near a fortune 500 company and sell rice and Daal to all the IT professionals who may buy from my small store.....in my case, I'd be selling the same thing again and again for years and year...and most likely at higher prices every few years.