Girlfriend of one of my friends had been in a relationship with a different guy before.
That was past, and now both of them really love each other and plan to get married soon.
The guy knows mostly about her unsuccessful past relationship and loves her despite.

But this friend of mine seems very occupied by a question.
He says he wants to know many guys the girl has slept with before!!
He himself has slept with 2+ girls (except this one), and says whatever number is there for her won't make any difference in their relationship.

I advised, if the number does not make any difference, why bother knowing or asking?
But he seems very confused whether to ask or not, and only way to get this question out of his head is by actually asking her.

If he asks:
1) She might lie, and just say 1(her ex), or even claim 0 (not even with ex), fearing the consequences of telling the real number
2) She might not wanna lie, and also might not want him to know, so NO ANSWER! which could bring troubles in the relationship

GUYS: If you were in this guy's position, how would you guys handle this?
GIRLS: If you were the girl, and if the guy asked you the question, how would you answer?

"He himself has slept with 2+ girls (except this one), and says whatever number is there for her won't make any difference in their relationship."

if it doesn't make a difference stop worrying about trivial stuffs...

let bygones be bygones....
and just admit u are the one thats occupied by this question!!! ^^

Your 'friend' sounds like a hypocritical idiot. All that matters is how they feel about each other, not the past. 

Well if i was the guy and i knew that my gf slept around with a lot of guys, then i had request her to do a blood test for STDs. I had be more interested in her blood result than the number of guys she slept with. If the result was clear, then only i would marry her.
If i was the girl, i had use mathematics to answer the question like >1  <5 and i would gladly do the blood test. I would also not marry this guy anymore as respect would have been lost.

The guy, as riddle bro said, is a hypocrite. Let's say he asks the girl. Regardless of the answer he gets, he's still going to be suspicious about her because based on what you wrote, he doesn't trust(love) her. And if he doesn't ask her, he's still going to think the same thing all the time - 'How many boys did she sleep with?' No peace for him either way unless he changes his attitude towards her.

Irrelevant but I wonder sometimes, why do many posts seeking advice, especially related to girl/boy issues start with 'My friend so and so.....'? Why stick your nose in others' private issues? If needed, they can ask for help themselves, can't they? This applies to not just you; there are many alike.

The heart is a wonderful devil, a masochist. It wants to scratch old wounds to hurt itself.

If he doesn't ask the question, this will stay in his mind forever. It will bother him for a little while and then it will go away, only to make its presence every now and then. I say go ahead and ask.

You didn't venture the third possibility. She teslls the truth; which has two more outcomes:
1) She has slept with only one (ex).
2) She has slept with more than 1.

Is he ready for these? If he loves her, then he has to be ready. Ask him to imagine this scenarios as real as he can and assess his reaction. This will prepare him for the answer.

If the girls doesn't want to respond, it is best to move on and give her the benefit of doubt.

Know this that it is just your devilish heart trying to screw things for you. Past shouldn't matter as long as it is not repeated.

 I'm always skeptical about people who start threads on behalf of so said friends, unless of course said friend has sworn off the internet.

Either way, since you ask, following is a flowchart to shed some light, hope your friend will see the bigger picture. The only assumption below is that they truly love each other (based on the info you provided).

Much luck to your friend in making this big decision.

everyone's advising the guy to get the girl tested for STD's
Is everyone assuming they haven't had unprotected sex yet?

FoxConn, good point. I think I have now accepted the fact that this so called friend is self. I have stopped questioning it now and just go along with the assumption.

Yeah, I think the same. Most of these people seeking advices for their so called friends are in fact, asking for themselves. According to South Park guidelines, they're called pus$ies! 

Too much about STDs, but I don't think that's the issue here. It's nothing but an example of a typical Nepali society's stand on sexual affairs. The guy just can't digest the fact that the girl had sex with one or more partners. Well, suck it up because noone is going to stay virgin for you, those days are gone.

 Bokaman, there are ~365 nights in a year, a minimum 2 year relationship would mean... you do the math. Plus the fact that both partners could have had other partners.... and also depending on what else they indulged in under covers... you never know.  In other words, better safe than sorry. 

Hello Jantarei,
that is a sweeping statement that noone remains virgin these days. Many nepalis girls still have not sold their culture to the West. Not to say it is morally better but these girls remain true to traditions. It is a sick mind which presumes that all girls do not have self control.

I know that there are girls (AND boys for that matter) who stay virgin until marriage; didn't mean to say that each and every single girl (OR a boy) doesn't stay virgin. Sorry for generalizing.

He himself has slept with 2+ girls (except this one), and says whatever number is there for her won't make any difference in their relationship.

What about massage parlour, beauty parlour?? lol

Greenfield, my 2 cents for your friend: if your partner's past bothers you, don't marry them, find someone who's past doesn't bother you. Don't be afraid of being called a hypocrite, it's better to be happy and called names than to be miserable and stuck with someone you can't trust in my opinion.  If you are going to marry someone with the intention of staying with them for the rest of your life, there are no questions that are off limits - ask what you want to know about them. People shouldn't be timid when making important decisions such as marriage.

Good luck to your friend!

greenfield you r this type of guy,
other i know a guy is going to get married after few weeks
he doesnt even care abt this
he was hungry just like tiger looking to sleep with as many gls as possible before his D day

i think ur friend( read U) should go to his gf and let her know how many did he banged before and tell his side of the story. how many affairs he had and what was the reason behind the break ups and stuff, so that sge will have better understanding. and then its upto her if she wants to share her side of story. if she opens up thats her will, if she doesn't (assuming both guys really love each other) there isn't anything that u have to know. she is trying to forget her past and move on, so STFU and be next to her.
also there is a chance that she don't wanna say coz she couldn't remember how many😬😬

कोइ कम्पिटिसन चल्दै छ हो greenfield जी तपाई(assumed its you not your friend) र तपाईको केटि साथि बिचमा ..... तेस्ले येतिजाना संग रात बिताई म त २+ मात्र भनेर ?

Come on Dude !! Stop being hypocrite . If she is loyal to you today why care about

यदि केटि तपाई प्रति आज बफादार छ र साँचो माया गर्छ भने हिजोको पहाड खोश्रेरा आजलाइ किन तेही धुलोले पुर्नु भन्या नि ? हिजोको खाटा उप्काएर आजको खुसि र मायालै किन टाटा गरिरा हो मुर्ख मनुवा .

Tell your stupid friend that, they both would not be happy knowing the reality. tell him to forget the past and work for the future, if he really loves her. since he has already doubted her - their break up is on the horizon, its just the matter of time.   

buddhi firchha ki vanera ali kada vandeko. 

 The guy asking question is a pu$$y and he has an excuse cuz he's asking for a FRIEND....FULK you, i am pretty sure you're asking for yourself.

Here's my  understand:

You fell in love with a girl and she told you she had boyfriend in the past and you didn't ask her beyond that because you're scared. If she tells you Yeah she had sexual relationship, you'll get mad and you're FULKED UP, but if she says no she didn't have any sex, you'll feel happy. That's all you want to know.

You can pretty much feel it if you have sex with a girl, you can tell the difference most of the time. If it goes in/out smoothly then you can assume that she had past sex parterns !

If you accept her no matter what, then this question is stupid....If not move on find other girls, there are still many girls that are virgin.