i'd been living with this guy for months...years....and never realised he's just a jerk...an @SS
does all the guys visit porn sites regularly.....
sending his pics to unknown girls....
awwww
i feel disgusted
n the part i hate....we've been together for years now. even if i try, can't forget this guy easily.
he was my first love... n hoped wuld be my last.....until i found out whats he doing lately..
i feel terrible

single wannabe:

so you just came from nepal and found out all this? or have u been in the US (or wherver u you are tight now)...for a while with him and only recently found out?

Well, to let you in n the butter truth, most guys AND girls do visit porn site, if their sigle and just wanna check things out once in a while, but if they're in a relationship, then that's a bit sad.

I would talk to him and first request him to not do that.
If he doesnt listen, I'd be upfront with him and TELL him not to do it.
AND FINALLY, if he doesn't let go of that habit, ID DUMP HIS ASS!!!

There's way more nicer Nepali guys than him. Don't feel sad or anything. He'll be the one who'll miss out, not you. You should move on.

And this is coming from a guy here.

It is very usual for a guy to watch porn regularly ( and even masturbate) even when they are fully loyal and satisfied by their partner.
Regarding calling other unknown girls, that is a little too much. You can work that out with proper communication. May be he is just careless about your company. Talk to him, and make him realize rather than dumping him. I bet no guys are better.

well, visiting porn sites is NOT necessarily bad thing...but if he talks to random people in your absence and do not tell you ...that may be something to think about...so talk to him...resolving issues by serious conversations is far better than running away and hurting yourself internally .......

Sounds like the cat in question is short in $$ ! - just a speculation based on probability of the community in question.

try : voyeurweb.com - amatures only.

i thought visiting porn sites was a good thing. he will be good in bed with you. may be you should visit some sites then u will know a thing or two about sex. right now i guess your bf is suffering coz u r so bad at it. please do the second guy u find a favor and visit some of the porn sites u found on ur bf's computer

I like sexy jerks.

If my guy does that to me, I'll do the same to him, srsly.
Wot I think is that you should dump him right away, he doesn't deserve you or I guess tell him his mistakes, who knows, he might realise too. ;]

single wannabe...i know when im not speakn for all the male species in the world..just me and some others who are a bit like me ;oP...but i guess we guys are naturally jerks?i mean duh!i mean we def be jerking here and there and before we know it smtimes even when we dun mean/want to..we end up being jerks ;oP...

basically crystalcracker kinda might know wat im tryn to imply..

anyways the part about sending his pics to other gals might def cause anyone doubts about their relationship..it kinda seems like the person is cheating behind ur back?..good luck with that..and watever decision u come to..hopefully u take a bit of time(a bit of talkn and clarifyin with him?) before u decide on wat to do?and def think a bit more about urself too when deciding?(oh i know some ppl who thinks about others more than themselves..and always aint that happy..cant please everyone can we?:oS hehe)

plus about the pron stuffs..im sure he will get sick of it sooner of later..when we have too much of anything we do tend to get a bit sick of it?;oP hehe..maybe if u talk with him and after the discussion he will try to change a bit?i mean he wouldnt know wat is makin u mad if u dun let him know hoina?ok ok before someone goes on telln me im being a sexist and siding a jerk..but well smtimes a jerk cant stop feeln another jerk aint that bad as we are thot of..hoina?;oP


good luck and good day!
(got more time to kill so herum ke ke bhakwash share garnu shakcha today ;oP)

When you love someone, tell him. And once you tell him, don't keep him waiting. Get married and have a child. That way, you will most likely KKEP him for ever.

After marriage, treat him like a lover would--don't take him for granted. Be diplomatically possessive, and not act like Film Censor Board.

Let him find in YOU what he is looking in others' pics or company.

Lastly, be careful not to act as a nagging wife. A nagger pushes the partner away.

Just jerk him off!

hey my girl is a jerk too..why don't we both dump then and hook up?

Great !! NOW Single_Wannabe, You have a reason to hook up with Lurey.....and dump ur JERK man !

Unless, you really WANNA BE Single ?!?

I think that's too bad. I guess a lot of people end up being changed after they come to US.But more than that, I think your bf is really seeking another 'white' girl. Let's face it, a lot of Nepali boys think they can hit on American girls, who they think will be good for mojmasti. Worse, you might be less than average Nepali girl, in which case, your bf really wants to screw around.

Plus, here is the risk, let's hope he is not sending naked photos to minors. One day if he gets caught in porn sting, you will see only worse days.

Porn ...i bet dis isn't as bad as u think....but sending pictures to some unknown gals is freaking me out here.....just hab a word wid him.....he might b taking you as granted...if he does so...kick him out of ur life ...and let him know nothing comes for granted.....

love ghundruk ko jhol

hey single wannabe, why u people come running for others' help for such small problems?and by the way how can u expect good suggestions from others when no one knows about ur relation.when u tell others something then u certainly hide ur negative points as well.why is he chatting with others and sending photos?? don get disappointed coz he did so.try to find out why he is doing so.may be u people had some problems and he got frustrated.or may b coz of ur behaviour he got disappointed and he loves u the same as u love him that is why u people are still together.by the way why do u complain about his watching pornos? if u people are going to get married soon, then watch together.or discuss with him that u r not for it.अरुको आङ्को जुम्र पानी देख्ने र आफ्नो आङ्को भैन्सी पानी नदेख्ने बानी हुन्छ धेरैको।i hope its not like that.don go after silly comments here.ego ruins everyone and every relation.u lose beautiful people and beautiful relation coz of some stupid self-centredness.by the way don try to change ur partner coz he/she has some weakness but try to make him complete as no one is perfect in this world.u don need to do the same thing he does to make him understand.so forget some stupid comments here coz one can give u suggestion until one knows details about ur relationship.go to him and talk nicely.once u have tried enough, u wont even feel pain leaving him if he does not respect ur feelings.still i think u really can solve this problem coz u have been living with him for years and how can u blame now that he is a jerk?if u were happy with him, then he has ability to keep u happy so don ruin ur relationship at once.make him understand what u want, what u feel and find out the way to compromise coz its very to find someone u love and someone who loves u.आफुले माया गर्ने मान्छेसँग दुई चार बचन झुकेर नरम् बोलिमा बोल्दैमा कोइ सानो हुँदैन न त इज्जत् नै जान्छ।त्यो उस्को लागि मात्रै होइन आफ्नो लागि पानी हो।
मौका आउछ पर्ख्दैन,एस्मा चुक्ने महामुर्खा हो।
don forget one thing, don keep on judging ur bf and don make him wait for every small thing suspecting him coz it hurts his ego and he will turn out be the way look at him though he is honest and gentle.ur gentleness, sacrifice and expectation make him chose the way.good luck!

astu:

thanx every one for ur comments. and thanx for the offers, but really i'm down n don't want anything to do with love...dunno if i'll ever be.....
and yeah highvoltage, u r right that i'm not perfect either. i've my own flaws. i agree that i can't watch porn with him. it's me!
i found out first on a very bad day. i was having an emotional breakdown, a while ago. i had classes and he was home. later that day i accidentally found those sites from the address bar. i was so disappointed...becoz that was when i needed him the most and...... after taht day for a few day i checked the history in explorer and found out that he did it everytime i was away for long....well so long for everything together.
i don't want to tell him to stop watching those. i gave him some hints that i know and am disappointed. i haven't talked to him directly abt it but i've tried talkin abt our relationship. it's like he doesn't want to talk abt it.
i don't see a bright future together. so i kinda want to get out now. i don't see a point now coz it wont be happiness. so...
i confess that i've had arguments with him for getting closer with other girls.
anyways..thanx all for replies. as i told you earlier all our friends are common friends. so everything is like inside me . and i desperately needed to vomit it out so..
i'm trying to get the pieces of my life together now.
take care all

Hey there,

Don't feel bad..I know we gals are so emotional about these matters.. I know its is shocking news for you.....Yes.. Boys are like that.. Almost all boys do that.. What I would suggest is may be talk to him.. And tell him how u feel openly.. If he tries to shut you out then there is no point trying to win him back.. If he is like honest with you and talks to you then listen to him and sort out the problem. Just my personal thought.. Its not that a real big issue to give up your relationship you have worked so hard for that many years..Better find out what he wants????????????

Good Luck

he watched porn so what? big deal? wtf...